Teen Guy Too Shy

Cherie Bennett
Thu, 13 Oct 2011 00:00:00 -0700
Lifestyle

Hey, Cherie!

This guy I know sent me a message saying he wanted to hang when school started, and I haven't spoken to him since! I thought that he liked me and that we would at least text or something by now. But it's been like three months since he sent me that message! I even have a class with him. His friends always surround him, and I am not the girl to make the first move, or the second move, I guess. He is really cute, too, with sweet dimples. My friends say I should just talk to him, but I'm too shy for that. I don't know what to do, but I cannot stop thinking about him.

—Confused and Shy
Updated: Wed Oct 12, 2011

Hey, Cherie!

This guy I know sent me a message saying he wanted to hang when school started, and I haven't spoken to him since! I thought that he liked me and that we would at least text or something by now. But it's been like three months since he sent me that message! I even have a class with him. His friends always surround him, and I am not the girl to make the first move, or the second move, I guess. He is really cute, too, with sweet dimples. My friends say I should just talk to him, but I'm too shy for that. I don't know what to do, but I cannot stop thinking about him.

—Confused and Shy

Hey, Confused!

I know what it feels like to think about a guy so much and never even talk to him. It sounds to me that he just got shy, too. Guys aren't really that different from girls. They are going through a lot of changes in high school, just like you. And the pressure to "do everything right" can really be tough, no matter what gender.

If this guy told you he wants to hang out and then no contact at all, then maybe he is too shy to make another move. He could be waiting for you to let him know you feel the same way. You could just open up a little and see what happens. You may be very happily surprised at his response!

Hey, Cherie!

I'm 17 and I hate to wear high heels. All my friends are into the same things as me, but when it comes to shoes? No way! I can't stand wearing shoes at all. But my friends are always harassing me because I won't put on the heels and strut around. I think they are just too uncomfortable. I wear short skirts and sneakers! Why won't they leave me alone?

—Digging my style

Hey, Digging!

Sounds to me like you got your own thing going. You don't have to be anybody but who you are. I understand that it can be hard to make your friends understand that you want to be comfortable, but if you stick to your sneaks, maybe they will start wearing them too!